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life goes on

hopefully it’ll get better.

two are better than one

Sitting next to the love watching him work while I get distracted writing in this blog.  It’s been too long.  Probably because of work.  It’s been a crazy past couple of months.

Happy new year.  Happy 2012.

Can’t wait to see what this new year has in store for us.

I love you, baby.  Happy almost 10.5 months.

9.26

I love you.

rising up

‎”Our greatest glory is not in never failing, but in rising up every time we fail.”
- Ralph Waldo Emerson

sade – by your side

you think i’d leave your side baby
you know me better than that
you think i’d leave you down when you’re down on your knees

i wouldn’t do that
i’ll tell you you’re right when you want
and if only you could see into me

oh when you’re cold
i’ll be there
hold you tight to me

when you’re on the outside baby and you can`t get in
i will show you you’re so much better than you know
when you’re lost and you’re alone and you cant get back again
i will find you darling and i will bring you home

and if you want to cry
i am here to dry your eyes
and in no time
you’ll be fine

oh when you’re cold
i’ll be there
hold you tight to me
when you’re low
i’ll be there
by your side baby

motivation

I’m drained.

I barely met my deadline today.  I have two deadlines for tomorrow.

Junior is keeping me sane in the midst of everything.  He’s sitting here throwing his little ball around and chasing it and it’s making me smile. Most wonderful dog in the world.

i am a thief

I am a murderer walking up this lonely hill.
What have I done?
.. I don’t remember
…no one knows just how I feel.

.. and I know,
that my time is
coming soon.

stepping out of our ruts

“The truth is that our finest moments are most likely to occur when we are feeling deeply uncomfortable, unhappy, or unfulfilled. For it is only in such moments, propelled by our discomfort, that we are likely to step out of our ruts and start searching for different ways or truer answers.” – M. Scott Peck

I’ve been reading and slowly learning a little bit.  Thought I’d share some insights.

There are 12 kinds of love — 6 for women and 6 for men.

Women need to receive:

1. Caring
2. Understanding
3. Respect
4. Devotion
5. Validation
6. Reassurance

Men need to receive:

1. Trust
2. Acceptance
3. Appreciation
4. Admiration
5. Approval
6. Encouragement

 

When a man shows interest in a woman’s feelings and heartfelt concerns for her well-being, she feels loved and cared for.  Naturally, she begins to trust him more, and she becomes more open and receptive.  To trust a man is to believe that he is doing his best for his partner.  Once a man feels like he is trusted, he will become automatically more caring and attentive to a woman’s needs.

 

When a man listens without judgement but with empathy and relatedness to a woman expressing her feelings, she feels heard and understood.  The more a woman’s need to be heard and understood is fulfilled, the easier it is for her to give her man the acceptance he needs.  When a woman lovingly receives a man without trying to change him, he feels accepted. Once he feels accepted it is much easier for him to listen and give a woman the understanding she needs and deserves.

 

When a man responds to a woman in a way that acknowledges and prioritizes her rights, wishes, and needs, she feels respected, and it is much easier for her to give her man the appreciation that he deserves.  When a woman acknowledges having received personal benefit and value from a man’s efforts and behavior, he feels appreciated, and he is automatically empowered and motivated to respect his partner more.

 

When a man gives priority to a woman’s needs and proudly commits himself to supporting and fulfilling her, her fourth primary love need is fulfilled.  When a woman feels adored and special, she quite easily admires him.  Just as a woman needs to feel a man’s devotion, a man has a primary need to feel a woman’s admiration.  When he feels admired, he feels secure enough to devote himself to his woman and adore her.

 

When a man does not object to or argue with a woman’s feelings and wants but instead accepts and confirms their validity, a woman truly feels loved.  When a man learns how to let a woman know that he has this validating attitude, he is assure of getting the approval that he needs.  Deep inside, every man wants to be his woman’s hero or knight in shining armor and seeks her approval.  When he receives the approval that he needs, it becomes easier for him to validate her feelings.

 

When a man repeatedly shows that he cares, understands, respects, validates, and is devoted to his partner, her primary need to feel reassured is fulfilled.  A reassuring attitude tells a woman that she is continually loved.  A man commonly makes the mistake of thinking that once he has met all of a woman’s primary needs, and she feels happy and secure, that she should know from then on that she is loved.  This is not the case.  To fulfill her sixth primary love, he must remember to reassure her again and again.

 

Similarly, a man primarily needs to be encouraged by a woman.  A woman’s encouraging attitude gives hope and courage to a man by expressing confidence in his abilities and character.  When a woman’s attitude expresses trust, acceptance, appreciation, admiration, and approval, it encourages a man to be all that he can be.  Feeling encouraged motivates him to give her the loving reassurance that she needs.  The best come out in a man when his sixth primary love needs are fulfilled.  But when a woman doesn’t know what he primarily needs and gives a caring love rather that a trusting love, she may unknowgingly sabotage their relationship.

family bonding

My brother got his new car today.

2012 Hyundai Sonata.  I thought I would never get a Hyundai, but the car is pretty sweet!  I have 9 more months of payment on my Accord, then it’s going to my dad (or mom).  I’m trying to think about what car to get next.  Hmm.. it’s exciting just thinking about it.

While at the dealership, my parents and I got into some discussions about the future, work, life, finances — really everything.  I was able to semi-vent out some of the frustrations I had.  I didn’t feel that great afterwards, but they were very understanding.  It got a little bit on the serious side with some other stuff, but I just jokingly brushed off the conversation.  Reality check.. a little.

The weather is cold.  I miss Chris.

I know I wanted to write something in here tonight.  I kind of forgot what though.